Monday, December 29, 2008

Cautiously optimistic

My father is opening his eyes and responding to questions. I'm not usually one to believe in miracles, but I have to say that this certainly resembles one. Maybe it was all those good thoughts and prayers all of you have been sending our way that did the trick. I have not responded to your comments on the blog, simply because I felt inadequate to do so. But let me say thank you now. You are all very kind.

He is not out of the woods yet, but I am starting to feel a little bit optimistic about his prospects. I'll keep you posted.

20 comments:

  1. That is good to hear. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! And you certainly should not worry about responding to comments.

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  2. I'm happy to hear this Susan, and hope things will keep improving:)
    Jan

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  3. Susan, Good news...thank you for sharing it.
    Gail

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  4. Such great news. I'm not technically into the miracle thing either but some things do seem to qualify. I'll keep hoping for your dad's recovery!

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  5. I'm happy to hear it and hope that the good news continues.

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  6. Jared and I are thinking about you and your family and we hope your father's condition continues to improve.

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  7. That is good news.
    All the best,
    ~Aerie-el

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  8. Will keep sending those prayers!

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  9. Hi Susan, what a wonderful miracle, we do hope he continues to improve. Our thoughts are with you and your family during these times.
    Frances

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  10. Susan, this is just to say I'm thinking of you and hope that your father's improvement continues. Best wishes, Victoria

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  11. I hope things continue to go well Susan. Best wishes.

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  12. Susan - I've just seen your news from a few days ago and now understand your comment on my blog today.

    Here's hoping for much better news for you in the next few days. Take care.

    ((((((Hugs))))))

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  13. I read your last post and this one. Nurturing along both physically and mentally an ailing parent is taxing to the bravest of children.

    I went through a bazillion moments like you described. My mom lived a long time on a little bit of kidney function. She was up and down for about 20 years and had only 5% kidney function. It was amazing. She lived with me about 17 years in all. I was not always kind and good as it got on my last nerve at times.

    Kidney failure makes a person act funny at times. All those backed up toxins make a mix in the brain that must somehow create mountains out of mole hills. Nobody told me that. My mom would get really frustrated with the whole process.

    But there were times of euphoria too and she thought I could do no wrong. My emotions got put on hold or would come all at once. I've learned to forgive myself for the times I went nutty too.

    I think living a distance away would be very frustrating. I can tell you that it is best to deal with the emotions as they come and go. I made myself sick not dealing with them. Live the trips to the garden and fix it as it nourishes you as much as him when you tell hime about it. Live and breathe every day while doing lots of things. Do things every day that include a memory for today and all the tomorrows.

    Think of how your garden looks today and what it will look like 10 years from now. It's ok if you cry through weeding for it is important to cry so the tears carry the stress out of your body. You'll feel tons better after you feel worse;). Nothing about it is easy.

    The best thing you do for both of you is to follow your heart on the matters of making decisions for your parents. Make them as though it was you and don't make them according to intellect. I'll explain...

    Drs become pretty vague if you ask them to be specific on time-lines as they really don't know. They will however, continue to be supportive and treat with the most current medicines and technology. But in the end, you children will have to decide when comfort is the most important road to travel.

    My biggest fear was that my mom would suffer. I took over her care in the end as i had the health care power of attorney. She went peacefully into a sleep and lived a quality life to the end.

    Now, I feel good about my decisions throughout the process but at the time I was not so sure. There is never a clear answer as to what to do or how many more years of enjoyment are ahead. But I can tell you that the end is not predictable as I've seen my mom come out of many a situation as you've described but in the end the very same situation eased her on to sleep.

    Don't fear the end for him physically. If you ask, they'll give your dad what he needs to be pain free. Feel free to contact me if you want any questions answered. I believe strongly in caregivers helping caregivers. Hugs to ya!

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  14. Hi Susan,
    I just got back into town and rec'd the news. Keeping my fingers crossed that things go well. Holler at me if you need anything.
    Best,
    Nancy

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  15. Susan, I have only just caught up with your news, so I am sending you love and blessings
    K

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  16. Happy new year Susan ..thankyou so much for you support this year, I am so sorry about your dad and hope for the very best. I am going to try to keep drawing a little bit every day as well as working on some bigger projects..what a shame we dont live closer I would love to come out sketching with you!!

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  17. Thanks you for all your good wishes, everyone.

    And thank you, Anna, for such kind words of wisdom. It sounds like you went through the mill and came out stronger for the struggle.

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